"'You look so good!' 'You can't even tell you had a baby!' 'I can't believe you've already lost all your baby weight!' We say so many well-intentioned things to new moms about their bodies. I say 'well-intentioned' because I really believe that they are (most of the time) genuine attempts at giving moms a confidence boost. But even compliments can be difficult to receive. Do they know that my belly is actually tucked into jeans that go up to my ribs? Do they know that my pregnancy line hasn't gone away, let alone my stretch marks? Should I be in better shape by now? Has it been too long to still have a 'mom pooch'? And then there is the mom sitting next to the one you are complimenting. The mom who carries a little more 'baby weight.' The mom who's had three kids and will never look like she 'never had a baby.' Wondering why she never heard those compliments. Wondering what she did wrong. Wondering why she's not 'bouncing back.' We could all do better at setting realistic standards for moms, even in the way we compliment them. Instead of telling her how skinny she is, tell her motherhood has given her a new glow. Instead of telling her she's lost so much weight, tell her you can see so much love in her eyes. Instead of telling her she's beautiful, tell her she's strong. Tell her she's capable. Tell her she's doing a great job. Or don't tell her anything and just wash her dishes for her. I promise it will mean a lot more. Moms are so much more than their bodies." #super_pregnant007 | 📷: @notquitecrunchymom . . . . . . . . #postpartum #postpartumjourney #takebackpostpartum #postpartumlife #postpartumbody #postpartumhealth #postpartumbelly #postpartumsupport #postpartumcare #postpartumrecovery #mombody #motherhoodjourney #momsupport #realmomlife

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