What makes you anxious during the holidays? Is it the financial burden of gift giving? Is the busyness of the season? Is it the need for a clean house since you’re hosting Christmas this year? Is it your kids behavior? Or seeing family you don’t care to see? • While this time of year is full of magic and joy (and really the most wonderful time of year), it can also be really difficult. • Last year around this time I was having reoccurring panic attacks. On Christmas Eve I sat on the floor in my sister-in-laws bathroom deep breathing doing everything I could to prevent a panic attack... it didn’t work. I was crying so hard and held a towel to my face because I didn’t want anyone to hear my uncontrollable cries. For me, the root of my anxiety during the holidays was my kids behavior and being with our family in the midst of them fighting over a toy, spitting, or shouting potty words at one another or even worse “I want a new mom.” These things don’t exactly put you in the Christmas spirit. These types of moments are such a trigger for me. Poor behavior, tantrums, meltdowns are hard enough-add a Christmas family gathering to the mix and YIKES. • What I have learned is that the more honest I am with those around me about my struggles and worries, the better the experience is for everyone. Of course I practice my own techniques, like grounding, but knowing that I have family that I can rely on to check in with me is a huge step in this process for me. I also feel less shame knowing I am supported in my struggles. • Here are some tips that I find helpful when it comes to anxiety & the holidays. • 1️⃣ Have honest conversations with those around you so you have a support system!! Set up firm boundaries because often they are necessary with family. • 2️⃣ Remember this season isn’t about how expensive of a gift you buy or what you can afford. It is about making memories and finding the magic of Christmas in the moments we make!! • 3️⃣ Slow down. Take on what you can handle. When you say NO to something you’re saying yes to something better!!! 🎄

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